Confessions of an Introvert Living in an Extroverted World

Confessions of an Introvert Living in an Extroverted World


I consider myself a hard worker. I’m also reliable, a fast learner, and independent, but sometimes that’s not enough to obtain or maintain a career, especially when most careers are people orientated. That makes sense­—we’re living amongst people, where jobs were created by people, in order to help people in some way. Of course, most careers would be people orientated. Unfortunately, not everyone has the physical capability to deal with others for long periods of time. These people are called introverts, and while they are trying their best not to lose their minds and work with others at the same time, extroverts are all up in their face demanding attention and someone to talk to.


The good thing about extroverts is that they’re brave enough to step up to the plate and have enough energy to say what they feel whenever they want. Introverts, though they don’t speak as often as extroverts, are capable of understanding that extroverts need to socialize for enjoyment and expression. They are willing to meet halfway and give extroverts that satisfaction. However, I’ve noticed that most of the time, extroverts won’t do the same for us introverts.



For example, the main focus for any business is customer service. Are the customers or clients getting what they need? The solution that most businesses come up with is making eye contact and speaking with the customer one on one. This is perfect because not only are their employees making sure that every customer feels like they’re the center of the universe but they are also preventing shoplifters, who, they feel, will get intimidated by the attention and, instead of shoplifting, will actually buy something.


If an introvert walked into a store and was treated like that, this might actually prevent business because, though I can’t speak for all introverts here, they actually did not want to go to your store and have fun. They just genuinely needed to buy something and they would have whether you had spoken to them or not, but you pressuring them just made them hate you instead.


That’s what I have against extroverts. It’s always about them and they never think that someone else would prefer it a different way. On the other hand, introverts like myself, don’t usually have the energy or the long-lasting grudge to speak up and say how they would prefer to be treated (that generally leads to confrontation, and I’m just, like, really tired right now).  So, how should we fix this?


Honestly, not only do I think that most extroverts are incapable of understanding that some people would just like some peace and quiet and just can’t make the sacrifice for us, but I also think that, without them, we introverts would be screwed. They’re the ones who keep the businesses running after all. But, I wouldn’t forget that introverts make a contribution to society either. There are certain things that extroverts can’t do that introverts can, like doing their taxes.


All I’m saying is that I’d like to be acknowledged, too. Don’t expect everyone to like being followed like a parent to a toddler. Say hi, let it be known that you’re here to help, and give me my space.


Rebecca Szabo

Rebecca Szabo graduated from Valparaiso University with a Bachelor's degree in Creative Writing. Her main goal is to write science fiction and contemporary fiction novels. In her free time, she likes to read multiple genres, including science fiction, the classics, and young adult fiction.

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