It’s that time of the year where heart-shaped boxes of chocolate and the reddest of roses come bombarding into our lives as Valentines Day draws near. For those in committed relationships and even those who are fresh into one, this could be a potential date night to remember. However, what about the rest of the world? Those who are single and don’t have a significant other to shower with gifts are left wondering what to do during a time of constant PDA.
I’m not going to sugar coat it. It can be unsettling to one’s ego when almost everybody one sees either has plans or are making plans for V-day. However, I’m here to tell you that being single may just be the best thing that could ever happen.
There are a plethora of reasons why having a bf/gf can and is a wonderful thing, but that’s not to say one has it better than the other. It just means that being single has its perks as well.
Being single is an empowering thing. It’s completely up to you on how your life proceeds. When single, a lot of the times people relate this to hook ups after hook ups. Although that is a valid avenue people can take, it also can be a time of self-reflection. Too often do people get caught up in relationships forgetting that when looking from a third party perspective, both are complete individuals with different lives and aspirations (more or less). Investing oneself in a relationship is nothing to be ashamed about, but losing sight of whom they are can be. When single, there’s a window of opportunity to soul search and find out who you are and what you want in life. It’s a liberating feeling that may lead to a healthy relationship if the time is right.
The positives of being single can be recited a dozen times but there will always be this nagging feeling in the back of your head. “What if I end up alone? What if no one ever loves me?” There are billions of people in the world and I would assume at least half if not more have had the same exact thoughts. It is daunting to think one could die without somebody by his or her side. Here’s what people tend to forget. Being single is an integral part of any relationship. Not only will being single open up a scapegoat for yourself to figure out your inner values, but this applies to others as well. Creating a relationship with people that have gone on the same journey of being single will understand the sacredness a relationship holds. Recognizing the importance of a relationship all starts with singles feeling secure with their well being while also keeping in mind that a relationship isn’t just a casual date here and there but a serious commitment to hold on to.
Don’t feel down because you don’t have someone to call “bae” but be grateful that you’re blessed with this time to you have to yourself. You can be as selfish as you like without any restraints. Nobody knows exactly whom he or she is going to end up with, but knowing yourself and what you can bring to a relationship is half the battle.